So I am out there once again.
Yes, I have begun mommy dating. On the prowl. Looking for Mommy Friends. I think it is time, I have been here for 6 months now and I think I need to get over my last Mommies (sadly enough). Any mommy friends at this point would NOT be considered on the rebound. I feel whole, I feel healthy, I am ready to commit to another Mommy or Mommies (nope, I do not live in utah).
I went on a mommy date this morning and it went well (crossing fingers). First date jitters and all and questions abound... "will she like me", "will I like her", "will I like her kid", "will my kid like her kid", "will her kid like my kid", "will my kid bite her kid", "will she be a 'talker' or a 'listener'", "will she get my humor", "will she even have humor". Many questions.
If I like her, how quickly after our playdate do I text/call her? If I don't like her how do I leave the bookstore politely? The kid! yes, we can always blame the baby. "She is so fussy I should go", or "I have to go and buy formula at the store" or "my other daughter's school just called, I have to go". This mommy dating is hard stuff. You don't want to be "that" mom but also don't want to be with "that" mom.
At the end of our date we kind of danced around the whole "so can I have your phone number?" exchange and setting up a future play date. Thoughts go through your head...Do I introduce her to my other daughter? She only has one kid so it is different as I come with "extra baggage". Do I really want to befriend a one kid momma? And the big question "could this mommy friend turn into couple friends? "Will Michael like Mr. Mommy Friend?" and the possible ways that that could go. Oh I know I am rushing into things already. I get so ahead of myself. Sigh.
Anyhow, I think it went well. There were smiles, laughing, lots of head nodding, and baby flirting going on. I think I should get an email or call soon. Right?
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- Bar-b
- "is this what you do all day" I have been asked, and I have to say "why, no of course not". (roll eyes and try to think of what exactly it is I do all day if it isn't kid or cuteness related). All new to the mom thing and to the blogging thing so I decided to merge them together as seamlessly as possible. Mother of two chicas and wife to an incredible hombre. Got a toddler's eye view of the world and lol'ing my way through it. I am a Stay At Home Psychotherapist and Cheesecake maker. Both exceptionally similar to me :) I travel extensively (mentally) and even have frequent flier miles to prove it.
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You are funny! I hope that this turns out to be a Mommy that you can date again.
Thanks for stopping by! I'll have to read up.... ! :)
omg....hilarious! Seriously, cannot wait to be a mommy!
Seriously Bar-B the funniest stuff I've read in a while,"don't live in Utah' Gold!
BTW you're featured in my latest post, I probably should have asked for permission before hand, but I know you're cool people. Hope you like it.
LOL...I need to start re-dating my oldies!
Ahhh! The mommy dates. I did that last year and caught myself a good catch! ;) Hope you find yours soon! :)
Wow.
I'm tired! Mommy dating sounds tougher than any dating I ever went through. LOL
I'm sure she loved you! How could she not!?
I was always to intimidated to mommy date.
This is a new concept to me. Thanks for keeping me in the loop!! Ha! Ha!!
Oh, this is hilarious...and so true...
Great post!
:^) Anna
Um, you have to move here when I have kids. I want you to be my #1 mommy friend.
I love your kids!
I love your humor!
;)
Please go out with me.
Ok kidding.
How can she not love your kids or you for that matter, silly?
Wait 3 days...
such a long post.... to say what i already KNOW!
you miss the shanster! DEARLY!
she misses you too miss cheesecake!
move on sister.... it's okay!
even if you become a mommy "player"... HA!
love you!
Now that was funny!
p.s. I have a total momcrush on you. If I lived in Houston, I would so go out with you!
By the way, I can make your button fairly easily if you give me a picture.
email me at oikology101 at gmail dot com and we'll discuss further, m'kay!
Nail on the head, sister...
Hilarious! And so true...
So funny! I am still doing the mommy dateing thing...Ugh... I just can't find anyone I am willing to commit to... sigh...congrats on your SITS day! ; )
That is a whole lot of anxiety for picking up some other woman. You could be me.
I have given up mommy dating and opted for blogging instead. All the warm fuzzy without all the commitment.
Ha ha! It's true though and I think most of us can relate. Sometimes "mommy dating" can be more stressful than "man dating".
Hope you find "the one" :)
So funny & so true! Hope you get that call :-)
So funny, so true, and so frighteningly scary as I am about to do this again...ugh!
That is too funny!
Oh my, this is so very funny...and so true! Glad it went well. I wish you the best with new Mommy friends!
Happy SITS day.
Ha!! I remember feeling that way when my kids were young. Love your blog header too!
Man do I understand that feeling. I'm going through the same ordeal right now. Making mommy friends is not easy
of course!It had never occurred to me that it was dating but is so is!
Ahem...that removed by author post? That was me. Yep, I posted as my husband because he didn't log out of blogger. Putz. Don't you hate it when you meet a mom with no sense of humor, and then you get sarcastic and they look at you like you are insane? Oh wait, maybe that just happens to me? BAHAHAHAHA
That's so funny! I'm terrible at mommy dating!
Congratulations on being featured on SITS. Funny blog. Hope you find a Mommy to date.
How funny you are. The gals at SITS said you are cute and they certainly were right!
ROFL. LOVE it. I've never heard it put quite that way, but it's SO true!! :)
OK - this was seriously CUTE. I had never thought of it this way ... LOVED how you wrote this!
Congratulations on your SITS day! While I don't understand mommy dating I do understand trying to find couple friends. It's so hard to find a couple we both click with. And when mommyhood comes, I'm sure it will be the same way!
Oh, how I feel your pain! My awesome mommy date moved - she was the only one who agreed that a little wine with your whine was cool for a playdate.
Oops, too much information? Darn it, I do that every time.
Call me?!
Em
OMG...this is so my life right now...only I'm a really a first time dater...like when I was 15....thanks for validating it all for me...
hahaha....it's so true!!! And then there's the whole scenario that the kids really like each other, but the mommies feel like they need some space. Then you're stuck with the dilemma of "do we stay together for the kids?" :)
Great post!
It's so nice to know I'm not alone out there in the trenches! Where, oh where, are all the good mommy friends?!?
Hope you get the call soon. :) Keep up the great posts!
Not a mommy, but that was hilarious. Have a happy SITS day.
Too funny! It's nice to know I am not the only one... :)
Lol! You'll have to let us know what happened.
I totally thought this post was gonna be you on a first date with a guy...
Now I am laughing my fool head off!
I have so been there. Just never called it a "mommy date". That is perfect.
Congrats on your SITS day!
So funny. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I've also had the Mommy Friend rejection; someone I've wanted to be friends with give me the brush off.
That is so funny and yet so true!! Congrats on your SITS day!
Totally have done this! I joined My Gym to "meet others moms." THat means I pay money to pick up mommies! Sad, sad, sad.
HAHA! I love this post, I've never heard of *Mommy dating*, but I can totally relate.
That's hysterical! I've never even thought of it as "mommy dating". But how true it is. I have one dear friend, we had children usually at the same time, that I could sit at McDonald's with for hours and hours. Love her to pieces, our mommy dates are important. Great post!
Too funny...good luck with it!
Hahaha! Funny.
Happy SITs day!
Very clever!
Hope you have a wonderful red, white, and blue SITS day!
Awesome post and so very true. Sometimes I think "mommy dates" are more stressful and nerve wracking than real dates. Men just aren't that judgmental, lol.
Congrats on your FB day! This was too funny!!
Too funny and too true... Remember, no matter how much you like her, no hanging out without the kids until after the third playdate!
haah- so??? did you make a friend? i hope you find some friends soon- that's such a weird transition to a new place. happy sits day!
Oh, so very true! I am glad that I seem to be mostly past the need for mommy dating. Now that my kiddo's in school, there's a built-in social network: the PTA! :D Whew!
Cheers!
I have 5 kids and it is SO hard to find a mommy date who can tolerate them and comes with enough kids so everyone has a friend! I feel your pain!
Funny story!
Happy FB on SITS!
Oh, girl you are toooo funny! I never thought of it this way, but I guess it is!
hilarious! mommy dating is such a pain. There are so mnay "that" mommies out there... and I'm sure I've made that list a time or 3 :)
LOL! Too funny - too true!
Hey Lady - you need to write a "rules" book for Mommy Dating!
Great post!
I seriously believe that match.com should open up a friendmatch.com site or something. Choosing a friend is every bit as important--and difficult--as choosing a lifelong mate!
What a cute post! All of us moms have been there!! Have a great SITS day!!
love your take on making friends. LOL. thanks for the smile!
hope you find some great mommies! :)
My daughter is just turning one, and we have just moved to a new town....now you have me all nervous! I thought the whole concept of "dating" was over when I got married!
That's a funny take on meeting new people...well, it would be funnier if most of it weren't true.
That is hilarious! Do we get a Mommy Date update??
If only it were as easy as it is on the playground:
I like your (insert truck or barbie). Thanks, wanna play?
Yes.
We are best friends. :)
You are hysterical! I would Mommy date you!
This was too funny! I loved it. I don't have children, so at first I was thinking, "hmmm... this seems.. odd." And then I realized ~ love this post!
That is so funny, but true. It reminds me of a play date last week with a mom I am getting to know from my daughters' preschool. We hit it off so well, I have been trying to sell my husband on her husband ever since. Just this morning I was telling him we should "family date." He kind of likes us being single, so I may have to spring a double date on him!
Good luck on "Mommy Dating" I need to do the same. I've been at our new duty station for a month and need some new Mommy Friends!
Hilarious, I like to group date!!
Very funny! And very true... think we've all been there!
Enjoy your SITS day!
I love it! Been there, done that. Except for me, I was trying to break into a group of moms. It took me a long time to feel like I was "in" with the group.
haha, I never thought of it like that, mommy dating. Funny post! I think it's like this anytime someone is looking for more friends to open up their circle...
Fabulous. I think we have all been there. :-)
Oh, awesome! You have to keep us updated on how things go on the mommy-dating scene. Don't forget to play the field a little, there are a lot of mommies in the sea. :) Good luck! Mommies need other Mommies!
Ah you have enspired me to find my own mommy date. I don't have any mommy friends other then those online (its sad I know). Now if only I could find the time around school.
This post was adorable! Hilarious and cute. So true...finding friends can be just as challenging and confusing as dating. I love the way you wrote this.
So cute! I need to start Mama Dating too. My last Mamafriend is no longer a good Mamafriend.
Great idea for a post!
That's hysterical...a couple of weeks ago, I took my preschool son and a few of his friends on a field trip. I was so jazzed to go...until I found out that another mommy would be riding with me, ALONE in the car for about 45 minutes. I literally spent all morning thinking about what we were going to talk about. In the end, I couldn't shut my mouth and she couldn't get a word in edgewise. Hey, I was nervous!
That's awesome...atleast she didn't lean in for a kiss! lol
*happy SITS day!
hardy-har-har! too funny! well, the other questions are ... is there a 3-day rule for phone calls/emails when mommy dating??? Who makes the next move? very clever post!
Very funny, I have So been there!
HeeHee! This is funny - but also kind of true. There's an element of dating when meeting new friends.
I was on a few of these recently, and they can be just as awkward as the "romantical" kind!
Happy SITS day!
hahah too funny! :)
happy SITS day! Congrats :)
Why is it so hard to do this. I have made play dates with my son before but I have met all the mom's from birthday parties prior to the play dates. The parties were a great way to get a feel for the mom's I would like and not like. However at the end of the day this is more about my son and his choice for friends and I try to keep my feelings out of it. I did say I try, right. :)
It is tough to make friends with other moms. I find myself being a hermit just because I am afraid of my kids being bullies or the mom not liking me. I have to say your post gave me courage. I really need to just be myself and let the kids have fun.
:)Thanks!
Oh funny! I know just what you mean. Hope you've found some good mommy dates :)
How funny!! I thought it was just me!!
I love that you named it Mommy Dating. You're very funny! Happy SITS day and I look forward to reading more of your blog.
You are a riot! I know EXACTLY what you mean. Sometimes it is so hard to find the right Mommy friend!
omg, this is hysterical! And all so true!! I love it!
too funny, but don't we all feel the same way?
Oh my gosh, I had never thought of it like this but it is so true and so funny!
How cool, never thought of it as a Mommy Date. Good way to put it though. I usually meet a lot of my Mommy friends through my boy's sports. Then we inevitably have something in common.
Happy SITS Day!!!!
This is so funny! I think most mommies can completely relate!!! I hope it was successful and you have had a few more dates!
Happy SITs day!!!
oh..too funny! I do love though when I meet a new mommy and we completely click! or is that clique!!
Congrats on the SITS feature!
Funny, but thought provoking- it is hard to find Mommy Friends & it is rather like dating :-S
Fortunately, both those activities are waaaay off my radar- the "baby" is graduating from high school in May, & Hubby & I have just celebrated 20 yrs of marriage :-)
I feel for you so much! I just moved across the country and it's hard trying to find friends, both mommy friends and couples. I enjoyed your post and it was very cleverly written too :) Good luck finding a cool mommy friend. Happy SITS Day!
You are too funny!!
I feel your anxiety.
Wow yes. What anxiety! And I'm such a shy mommy type too...
How Cute! Mommy dating. LMAO....
So cute and true! Maybe I need to get on with the whole mommy dating thing...I have been here for two years. It is probably way past time to start dating! :)
Pretty funny. And cute blog.
That was very funny!! I live in Utah and I haven't been on a Mommy date for a couple of decades!
Ohno, mommy dating! You THINK dating is all over when you say "I do," and even more so once you have kids but nooooo it's just begun. Hilarious read - and I needed a smile today!
It's so hard to make new mommy friends!!!
Darn.... now I'm hungry for cheesecake! And there is no cheesecake in sight.
Cute post! I know exactly how you feel.
This is hilarious. Last year I moved and refused to make friends for like four months because I was so sad leaving my other mommy friends. Then I gave in and went through this process you so cleverly describe. I had one failed "Mommy date"--the kids didn't really gel. Which was for the best 'cause I wasn't diggin' his mom anyway! Luckily the rest went well and I have adult conversation again.
LOL!!! You described it so well! I am sitting here nodding up and down. You are definitely a Mommy friend I would want!
Finding new friends after a move is difficult. It's nice to have children which can open some doors for you!
Funny! Seriously, you sound great - I don't think you'll have any problems!
I so need to go on some Mommy Dates. I've lived here for 10 years and still only have a handful of friends.
That is so true--I do get nervous when I want to introduce myself to another mom and ask her out on a playdate!
I think we can all relate to this! Hope it works out b/w you two!
I had a similar situation when my oldest daughter was in dance class. I was trying to woo the other dance moms. Good news is that most of them are some of my best friends now.
Congrats on your saucy blog!!! This post is too funny!! :) I love your sense of humor, and your blog is absolutely beautiful!
Oh that is hilarious! I absolutely love this -- and can soooo relate to it. So did she call????
Hahahaha too funny- I am so glad I am past mommy-dating. Now with so much extended family thanks to dh, I guess I don't have to gigi date. ;)
This is great! I need to go on Mommy dates, too!
SO true! I love the break down. It's not easy making new friends!!
Love it! I remember those days. Now I make teacher friends :)
Holy cow, that is exactly how I feel! I think Mommy dating is even harder than regular dating was back in the day. Yeesh!
This is too funny!! Hope you get an email or call soon for another Mommy date! Congrats on being the featured Saucy girl today!!
You must be a city mommy. ( I didn't read your bio yet.) The idea of mommy dating frightens me because I would have to allow other peoples children to run amuck around my house. eewww... I know that sounds awful, but my house is crowded with 3 boys and 1 teenage girl - that is enough. I prefer to blog now. I don't have to do my hair, figure out what to wear, and then drive forever to get someplace. (We live in the country.)
Kudos to you! I hope you find a match. I'm somewhat envious that you might live close enough to a park to play in with your new mommy and friends. Good luck.
I bet this rings true for most of the moms out there. It sure did for me! I find it especially hard to meet other moms because I work full time and can't make all those mid-day non-weekend mommy events and play groups. When you DO find that other mommy, though, isn't it the best? You'll have to let us all know how this one turned out!
Great post! It cracked me up, but it's also SO true - it's just as hard as dating, isn't it?! Ah for the days of being 8 and walking up to someone and saying "hey, want to be my friend?". Why can't we do that?
I've never heard it put into words or even realised that's what I was thinking...but that's exactly what I've thought at times. I'm fortunate to have found a "keeper" and even better, we are now "couple" friends.
Congratulations on being featured on SITS. I gave up on mommy dating and opted for blogging instead. You get it all without the commitment...
Just thinking about it gives me anxiety. I don't make too many mommy friends, and yes, I get crazy like that with the questions, the doubts, the nerves. Great post. Hope you find your mommy/mommies match/matches soon.
I'm such a nervous Mommy dater. I feel like I should post a "missed opportunity" entry on Craigslist for the near-mommy dates I screwed up.
I must be getting better. I have a second date with a Mommy this weekend.
Mommy dating? Wow, there's a whole new world out there. I think I need to go find me a Mommy date.
Just popping over from SITS a day or so late.
Hilarious.
Hope this blossoms into a wonderful relationship! *lol*
Linked from SITS. Am loving your site and your humour!
I am getting ready to move, so I, too, have mommy dating anxiety. I always get tongue tied and my mind goes blank. I am so used to talking to kids that the whole adult conversation thing is . . . um . . . difficult.
I sure enjoyed this post, you crack me up.
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