Wednesday, July 15, 2009

FB etiquette

There has to be some rules, somewhere. I swear, I feel so old and not "with it" when I am on facebook. The funny part is that everyone else is as old as me and probably less with it, kwim (know what I mean...for those of you less cool).

It is a place where you want to be you but realize that most of these people don't really know you because you have befriended half of North America. You have to censor your comments, remarks and pictures b/c there are ALL SORTS OF people on here. So when you are commenting on your "friend's" pictures and you really want to drop the f bomb (because it really is the right expletive) you don't b/c you don't know if this person has their mother, father, children, co workers, bosses, children, teachers, babysitters, in laws, etc etc etc on their friend list. This personal and professional site is a tough dance for me.

Now the actual procedure of "Friending" is where I get super frazzled. Let me walk you through it. I get a friend request from someone. There is no message attached to the request. I either 1. just know who you are because you went to school with me, 2. are a friend of a friend that I went to school with, 3. realize that I have met this person ONCE, or 4. have no clue who you are. I have a hard time with each of these. First off, would it kill any of you to put a little message on the friend request? I mean a short "great to see you on here" or "met you at the playground last tuesday" or "used to work with you ten years ago...I sat down the hall in a whole other department....but I want to be your friend on facebook". You know, something like that.

Secondly, why do you want to be my friend anyway? We didn't really care for each other in high school or college, why would it be different now? Or, I don't even know who you are. All of this promiscuous friending can lead to weirdness later. And if you are desperately trying to get to a "number" of friends to feel good about yourself or to feel popular, you are truly jacked up.

When I DO befriend you, you never write me, or comment on my pictures, or my status. What is the point here folks? Are you an acquaintance, lurker or snooper? This should be coined so. I would be ok with this b/c at least I would know what to expect from our "friendship".

All of the requests for pokes, games and trees and hugs. I don't get them, I don't play them. I don't really care what kind of cleaning detergent you are, ice cream flavor, which song you are, or what drink you are. Aren't all of you supposed to be working? I am a sahm, I am expected to be on the computer all of the time. These things make me laugh and I also laugh at the typos (grammatical and spelling) involved by the authors of the quiz.

All in all, I do happen to LOVE facebook. Most of it anyhow. I have just always pondered these questions and have wondered if any of you have too and what you have done about it. Are you "accept" happy or "ignore" happy.

Anyhow, as always, I have found a video on you tube to illustrate my point (or lack thereof).

14 comments:

Unknown said...

Great post! You must be reading my mind! And that video is too finny!

A* said...

Um HOLY CRAP I totally agree!!!
I routinely go in and clean house on FB. I'm all you? don't care. You? don't have funny status updates. You? send me too much bullsh*t... etc. etc.
It's VERY cathartic. :)

Aubrey said...

Am I the last person on earth withOUT a FB page??? Get with the program Aubrey, get with the program...

Keeper of the Skies Wife said...

This was a great post!!!!

I hate all those stupid quizes and request for crap for farmville!!! WHO has time for that crap!!!

Oh and friends....omg....friends from high school....right....the cheerleaders who talked down to me because I was the skinny track girl....yeah, well look who is still in good shape and they are fat!! haha Yeah, I friend them so I can see what they have become!

Jelly said...

I think I love that chick in the video.

I am your FB friend because I stalk you. :o Deal with it! ;) You know, in a totally NON-stalker sort of way

HA!

I am friends with people now, that I was never friends with back then. Weird? Yes. Interesting? Yes. A good idea? Ummm...NO!

Cindy said...

Amen! though I am into secretly friending the entire Homer Hanna class to see what becomes of one after life in Brownsville! just figured out to hide statuses that are full of stupid games!!

SarahIsabel said...

I hate when you get an update telling you your mother in law took the "What's your porn star name?" quiz or something similar.

--s

Tia said...

I agree, Barbie! I can't believe all those requests/gifts for farmtown I have sitting there! I DON"T farm, damn it! lol

And for people who request your friendship but don't go any further - they suck! :-)

Anonymous said...

Babs, leave it to you to put all of my facebook q's to words. I think it should be a requirement that if you are friends with someone, or especially request their friendship, you need to say something. Otherwise, yes, it's just weird!

PS - I love to "lurk" on your page hoping you will pop up as online, only to find that you will not allow me to communicate with you while online anyway...(that's how I personally like to roll, anyway:)


Love you,
the other me

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